Let’s take an example for this
When you are a teen and you are facing some problems or if you have created a trouble, is it easy to confess the issue with your parents? No, right? Cause its difficult to share your feelings to the loved ones.
While proposing, the biggest fear is that the person you love will accept you for the rest of the life or reject you which can ruin your friendship.
Thoughts before proposing
Fear of rejection
Many people don’t propose or confess their feelings to the loved ones as they have a fear that they will get rejected.
So you are gonna hide your feelings for the rest of your life and see him or her walk away and die single? Noooooo! Go get her/him. Maybe he or she feels the same for you.
Maybe he or she loves you more than you love him or her, so stop hiding your feelings due to the fear of rejection and just do it.
I mean come on, the name of the day is propose day itself, If you won’t propose him or her than other days will make fun of it by calling the day a loser so at least do it for the day.
Have some respect for the day and go get your girl/ man.
What if he or she is expecting from you to propose. So stop having a fear of rejection. Think it with a different perspective, what if you love someone and they too love you so much but is waiting for you to propose, and you don’t, due to fear of rejection???
Then matey let me tell you one thing, someone else will propose and maybe he or she gets tired of waiting and says yes to the other person.
Now don’t say the quote that if she really loves me, she will wait, cause that just happens in the biblical times. So would you please grow up? And propose the girl or man you love instead of letting her or him go away.
He or she deserves better than me
And now don’t start with, “maybe he/she deserves better than me” noooo! Jeeezzz! Stop being a baby! He or she deserves to have you, but you being an idiot letting her/him go can turn into the biggest stupidity of your life that will make you feel regret for the rest of your life.
He or she does not deserve better than you, they deserve to have you. To be honest, this is one of the third class excuse when someone is fearing regarding the answer of proposal.
Distraction
The biggest problem of these days in teenagers is that they consider their loved ones as a distraction. A distraction from studies, etc.. Etc.. Like seriously?
Are you kidding me? Your loved one is your biggest motivation and strength, he or she is your positive viber and you call them a distraction.
Considering them your strength instead of weakness will make a plus point for your future. Cause then you have a desire to work hard and be something so that you could happily ask the girl or guy’s parents for marriage.
Don’t think of him or her as a weakness, he or she can be the reason behind your success story. Study hard to win the love of your life – that is your strength, believe in them as your strength.
What will parents say?
Make your love of life a motivation to a brighter future, if you are well settled and you both have economic stability than parents won’t have any objection. So simple.
Don’t get so scared, parents will understand if you yourself has choose the right person for you, and plus if you both are well settled and economically stable and treat each other as equal, they won’t have any obligations.
By Hari Bhandari (bhandarihri1234@gmail.com)
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